I think I've come to figure men out a little more. I'm not one who likes to play games... but it seems that since I haven't been as 'available' (not online as much) for J - he's all of the sudden wondering where I am and what I'm doing and missing me. He's been going through something lately so I've given him his 'space' to be in his little cave. It seems to have done the trick... but time will tell. He was quite nice last night and we talked a lot which was good. :-) Still don't know what's gonna happen there, so still keeping my options open. Not that I have men beating down my door... but I also HIDE from the world at times. All part of me not having a life, I suppose! I've been in my own little cave for years. ;-D